rough program is getting ready!

Well, dear readers, I am happy to let you know that more and more the rough program of our weddingceremonies is getting ready... as well as in The Netherlands as in Thailand.

Well, on the 7th of October I hope to celebrate my 50th birthday, as the dutch saying goes: I'll hope to see Abrham ;-)
On the 8th of October, at 16.00 hours, Kik and I hope to say "yes" to eachother and from that moment on we will be lawfully married .... and the greatest part of it is that more and more countries are starting to recognize unions as ours... and hopefully in the near futur Thailand wil be one of them !!

ON the 9th or 10th we will leave Holland and fly down to Thailand together as a couple, yeaaahh!
There I'll bring Kik to the Temple of his choice to withdraw in it to prepare himself for our Bhoedist marriage. He wil do so for 23 days......... Kik was born in 2523 (the Thai follow the counting of the years folowing Bhoeda's death 2551 years ago ;-) and we chose the 23d of november for our weddingdate in Thailand!
Both our dates, the 8th and the 23d, have been settled after Kik had consulted his 'mother' in Bangkok. Do not confuse the word mother with our western understanding of it. In Thailand "mother" is used for wise (sometimes old) men who advice on all kinds of things in life of the Thai, like whats the best day to get married. Kik got the advice of his trusted mother in Bangkok and am myself happy to follow his advice in this!
The 11th of november was just as good, but Kik had preference for the 23d, because of his year of birth ... and am totally happy with it because I also like use of symbols, may it be dates, or otherwise ... its good, and most time makes you feel much more comfortable with it and so create your own good feelings and therefor most likely good omens as well.

I got a little bit shocked when Kik told me sofar they expect 900+ guest on the 23d of november ... a somewhat higher number of people then I expect to attend our civil wedding here in Delft, hehe

I will send out to all the poeple whom I have emailadres from, etc, the first pre-invitation, in dutc and in english, so everybody who want to come to either weddingceremony can let me know, and mid/end august I hope Kik and I can send out a printed invitation to all who reacted positivly. Mid october we'll also send a more specified invitation for the Thai weddingceremony.

The closer we get to all the dates, the more, sometimes crazy idears, hit my mind ..... lets se how crazy I'll become, haha

Well, when you read this and not sure if I have your emailadres and you want to stay or get involved in all of this, just drop a line and I keep you posted as far as it might be necesary!!

Take all good care!!

From happy to scared and back to happy again....

Thats how the rollercoaster of my feelings went these last weeks.
Not that anything was wrong between Kik and me. No, Kik suffers from backproblems for quite a while yet and was told by his docters at Phuket hospital that he had to go to Bangkok to exclude the possibility of cancer in his back! A somewhat different message then tendon/back problems which Kik was suffereing froom these last months.
Now me being here in Delft/The Nethrlands and Kik in Thailand made me at times go a little bit bananas from worry about what the situation was exactly, if Kik was following up as quickly as possble, etc.
Kik went last week to Bangkok and afterwards he travellled onwards to his grandparents farm in Udon Thani...where he stil is by the way!
Last weekend my worry got so big that I thought : If I do not receive any comforting messages from Kik the next couple of days then I am buying a returnticket to Thailand and go find out myself and support him where ever that might be necessary... because if theirs any chance on cancer its very important to start treatment asap so the chnces of recovvery are as big as can be in the circumstances.
Now, yesterday I called Kik again (we speak allmost every day on the phone these last weeks, logically) and in the background I heard happy chatter of his familly in Udon......... and then he told me: no cancer!
My God I allmost started to cry from relief and sheer happiness ... all kinds of doomscenario's had spooked trough my mind and all of a sudden they all just dissapeared!
Kik told me that he would go back to Bangkok on the 18th of june to visit the dutch embassy to get his visa settled for his 3 months stay in Holland. Also he told me that he needed to take care of his back and tendon very much and I concluded, without him contradicting, that most likely his dancing career had come to a halt if he wanted to be able to use his back for a while to come... he didn't disagree, which says a lot about his backproblems and the shoch he, and I, had received these past weeks.

Well, so since yesterday in a somewhat better mood, to put it mildly.... all is back on track and the preparations for marrriage is still fulll steam ahead, YIPPIEEEE (hahahaha)

(the pic inserted in this entry is of Kik in costume at Simon Cabaret, a month or so ago ... sorry you have to turn your head a bit, haven't yet discovered how to safe the rotation)